I’m baaaack…after only a very short hiatus while I was having fun at Girls Just Wanna Weekend. So I came across this article about seven questions experts say almost everyone is too embarrassed to ask. And of course I saved it for a blog post! However I only intend to cover five of the seven because I suspect that y’all would be mainly interested in those five…two were about penis size and if something a person enjoys makes them gay…LOL! Anyway…without further ado…here they are with the answers!

What comes out when I squirt? Nope, not pee, although chemically it is similar to urine with additional small amounts of a substance called PSA (prostatic specific antigen) from the Skene’s glands (female prostrate). Squirting is apparently different than female ejaculation because the liquid that comes out of female ejaculate is a thicker milkier substance that is entirely from the Skene’s glands.
Am I masturbating too much? Hell no! With one caveat…if, and this is a big if, because it is so rare… if your masturbation habits have interfered with your daily life, relationships, job or other responsibilities it might be worth addressing. But even masturbating several times a day is NOT a problem. It is totally okay if solo sex happens more often than partnered sex.
Will using a vibrator desensitize me? I know I’ve covered this before in a previous blog post, and the answer is no. While there may be temporary clitoral numbness right after use, that goes away. However, it is true that if you use a specific method repeatedly for an extended time period it can temporarily be more challenging to achieve orgasm in other ways…so the answer is to mix things up!
Is something wrong with me if I have weird sexual fantasies? Nope…let that kink flag fly! Fantasies are safe outlets and don’t necessarily translate to what you might be interested in acting out in real-life. And even if you are interested in trying out the most bizarre sexual fantasy in your head, that’s okay too, as long as both parties are consenting adults in that fantasy.
Is there anything I shouldn’t be putting in my butt? Uh, yeah…but a better question is what’s safe to insert in the anus. There are specific toys designed for anal play…obviously those are okay, like anal plugs or vibrators specifically designed to go into the anus. Sex toys designed for anal insertion will often have a flared base, because it would not be good to have anything stuck or lost inside! Stay away from scented products (lubes) or chemical irritants, or anything that numbs the area (you actually want to feel the sensation, not mask what may be too painful because that could lead to harm…sorry, those who are into BDSM…that’s just what the article says!

So…there you have it! Not even going to try to tie this into books, but I do hope some of you will check out my books…I have a new release on pre-order (The Love Demand-super fun contemporary romance without any quirk) and one of my all time favorite books now out in audible (Unconventional Lovers). Please support small independent publishers like Affinity and keep us in business! You know the drill, just click the links below.