Last week, I read this hilarious book by LL Shelton called My Lesbian Grammie, and it got me thinking about whether there are recommended sex toys for women of a certain age. I’ve already written a blog about how our bodies change, and specifically our intimate bits, but I wondered about how that might affect our choice of vibrators. Big surprise that in our ageist and sexist society, there was very little out there on this topic. I’ll bet if vibrators were the preferred sex toy for men, there would be multiple NIH studies. According to Google AI, post menopausal women should use clitoral vibrators. But I wanted to know which ones, specifically. Like, was there a brand out there recommended by four out of five sex therapists? Eventually, I found a wonderful YouTube video that mentioned a Cosmo article. A podcaster on the Age Better channel, hosted by Barbara Hannah Grufferman, spoke with Joan Price, a sex expert. Here is the link to the video for those who wish to see it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ai4Wy6P8O6U. The most important part of the video is a reference to a Cosmopolitan article in which Joan Price talked about the 10 best sex toys for women over 60. How perfect is that! Here’s a link to that article: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/interactive/a45953779/sex-toys-for-seniors/. For those who want to go shopping, the article has links to the 10 recommended toys! Here they are in no particular order:

Eroscillato 2 Plus With Ultra Soft Finger Tip Combo – The soft finger tip attachment is apparently the key feature, making it perfect for clitoral stimulation. And the bonus is the slim wand handle and long attachment tip, making it more comfortable for arthritic wrists. This vibrator is the only sexual toy that world-renowned sex educator Dr. Ruth Westheimer has ever endorsed. One downside is that it needs to stay plugged in during use.
Inya The Rose Clitoral Stimulator – This toy can either gently or strongly suck your clitoris. It has different levels! It is recommended that you apply lube to your clitoris first. This toy also has room for a finger or other toy in your vagina, too.
Hot Octopuss Kurve – With two independent motors, this one might fit your needs if you can take a little girth, because the head is 1.5 inches. It might be too big for some of us who are more constricted in our mature years. Like other toys, you can also add another toy or fingers for clitoral stimulation.
Tenga Iroha Yuki – A palm-sized vibrator that can cover a larger area to stimulate your clitoris and vulva.
Fun Factory Volta – With six speeds and six different rhythm patterns and an ergonomic handle for arthritic wrists, this is a versatile toy. Plus, it has an inventive shape that you can get creative with (there are actual flippers on one end).
We-Vibe Touch X – Another palm-sized toy that is very lightweight. This one is a particularly good traveler. This one has eight speeds and seven different rhythms.
Womanizer Premium Eco – This one has a unique technology that creates pulsating and massaging using changes in air pressure without touching the clitoris. Apparently, this feels like a combination of nibbling and sucking. Good for those who enjoy oral sex! And a bonus, if you’re environmentally conscious, it is made from recycled materials. Once again, the non-vibrating handle is good for arthritic wrists.
We-Vibe Melt – Similar to the Womanizer, this toy is a slimmer version that also uses the same air technology. And, it has 12 speeds! Plus, the toy can be controlled from your smartphone. How fun is that?
Magic Wand – I have to admit, this one is not my favorite. Although the fact that it’s rechargeable is a bonus. It comes in a mini version measuring 9.5 inches and weighing 9.7 ounces, but that may still be too big and too heavy for some of us.
Fun Factory Limba Flex Bendable Dildo – Now we’re talking. For those who would still like to enjoy some penetration, this slimmer toy might do the trick. The small version is 1.2 inches in diameter. Side note: I found an even slimmer G Spot Vibrator with a Clitoral Stimulator on Amazon. The head was .82 inches. Here’s the link to that toy: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0C6TKLYK2/

So…there you have it. You’re welcome! If LL Shelton can, without shame, incorporate funny stories with women over sixty enjoying sex, I’m sure I could weave in a few nuggets incorporating preferred sex toys for the more mature woman! Want to check out my books? Feel free to click the links below.