Okay, I admit it…Vibrators are one of my favorite topics to return to. So, imagine my delight when I ran across this article about…Vibrators! I immediately knew I had to share the information with everyone. I also learned something new when I went back to search for the article I read…there’s a search function that brought up several other interesting articles about my favorite topic, so of course, I’ll share that information as well!
The article I found last week was titled: “Can a Vibrator Desensitize Me?” I can’t provide a link because you’re required to have a subscription to Apple News for this article…but the answer to that question is quite simply…no. This is a myth perpetuated by mostly men. There was an actual book called, Beautiful You, that imagined what would happen if women spent their days and nights alone with a vibrator…seriously? Only a guy could come up with shit like this. And, of course, in his book, there is this line, “A billion husbands are about to be replaced.” The good news is that neither frequent sex nor a vibrator will desensitize all those glorious nerve endings – 8,000 of them, which are twice as many as the penis has. The myth is probably a result of the perception that after using a vibrator more often, a person may begin to find it more difficult to have an orgasm without one. The reality is that it’s not an addiction, but actually means you may be figuring out what gets you off better. Sometimes people prefer vibrators because the sensations of a vibrator may be more conducive to orgasm. The article uses an analogy I can personally relate to. I wear contact lenses, and while I can see without them, I see more clearly with them in my eyes. Finally, there is actual research that suggests a vibrator has positive sexual results because it can help a person relax and feel more creative in the bedroom, which leads to higher levels of desire, arousal, and improved sexual function.
After doing some further research I found an article by AARP of all places, which I can provide a link to: AARP Article This article lists the myths around vibrators. Here is a summary of those myths:
- Vibrators are for lonely losers – The truth is that one-third of women use vibrators, and more of those women are in relationships.
- No real man would ever use a vibrator in sex – Okay, honestly don’t really care much about this one. Now, if the myth was no real woman would ever use a vibrator in sex, well, then, I’d have to pay attention to that!
- If a woman needs a vibrator to have sex, something is wrong with her – see above for why that is totally untrue. In fact, 25% of women have difficulty having an orgasm without a vibrator.
- Vibrators replace men – okay, so, again…not that important to me, personally, but for those of you who are bi-sexual or pansexual…not true!
So…stop beating up on vibrators…they’re our friends! Ironically, as much as I love talking about vibrators, they don’t often show up in my books. I may have to correct that. Although, other toys do show up, so feel free to check out my books, my sex scenes range from sweet and sensual to a bit of spice. There is always at least one scene because I don’t do fade to black. Hopefully, you’ll click on the links below and check them out for yourself. And…for breaking news, Politics of Love is now out on audio!
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