My Mother’s Perfect Imperfection

CaptivatedEvery year I honor my mother in the blog before Mother’s Day. I’ve been doing this since I started my blog four years ago. This will be the fourth year I’ve done this. Sometimes I tell stories about my mother, other times I share the essence of who she was. I’ve talked about her passing and I’ve talked about her struggles with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and how that influenced my need to write a book with a character a lot like my mother in Captivated. I wanted to portray the quirks I came to appreciate growing up and emphasize that I believe my father loved my mother for her quirks not despite them.

perfectMy mother wasn’t perfect. No one is. She struggled for many years after I came out to her and internalized the pain. She also wasn’t very kind in a few of the things she said because sometimes our pain and misinformation causes us to say things we don’t really mean. When you love someone, you forgive. And make no mistake; I loved my mother very much. Ultimately, she was a very kind and compassionate human being who had far more delightful traits than those areas that needed some fine-tuning.


DreamCSometimes that forgiveness takes a little while. Right now, I am trying to muster up enough compassion and forgiveness for a family member who has been diagnosed with bipolar. I started writing about this challenging disorder before my difficulties, and the hurt and pain I experienced recently with this person. I haven’t been able to forgive…yet… I hope to get there eventually, but in the meantime, I wanted to offer up a book that shines the light on bipolar and changes the narrative for both myself and others. The main character in The Dream Catcher is as delightful as my family member. Thus, I hope to someday remember that wonderful person inside the disorder.

Ah, but I digress. I hope you will forgive my tiny bit of ADHD. Today, I would like to share a story about my mother to let you in a little further. My mother was a special education teacher and for many years she used her inherent compassion and talent to teach young kids who for the most part were “dumped” into her classroom at the private school she worked.  Although the children were supposed to be kids who had learning disabilities such as transposing letters, or reading comprehension, what she ended up with was a classroom of emotionally disturbed children. Since these kids were the hardest to place, they ended up in her school, because she would never refuse any child.


Most of the children came from broken families who were undoubtedly under the poverty line.  Not having decent clothing or shoes was the norm. Mom often went shopping and made sure the kids had clean clothes and shoes that fit. Illinois has very harsh winters and I suspect without my mother, many of those kids would have frozen their tushies off waiting for the bus.


My mother loved Bingo so she employed a rather unconventional technique to get the kids to learn letter and numbers. The kids responded exceptionally well to her teaching technique because she handed out money and candy to the winners. She employed other incentives to learning using money and candy and they all worked. All of this came out of her pocket. I wonder if it cost her more to teach than if she were unemployed. My father was making a lot of money at the time, so I suspect she considered this her way of contributing to society in some small way.


When the school closed because the owner had Alzheimer’s, I think a tiny light extinguished in her heart. She ended up working at the high school as the Executive Assistant to the Assistant Principal who doled out all the discipline. The kids always had great respect for Mom, because there wasn’t a single child on the planet that she couldn’t find redeeming qualities in. She genuinely liked them all, even the ones who acted out.


Bottom line, I miss my mother every single day and I suspect so does the entire world. She made a difference and the world is just a tiny bit less wonderful because she is no longer here on earth.


It’s easy to see how my mother and other members of my family have influenced my writing and what I choose to write about. If you are at all curious, you know the drill click one of the links below!

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6 thoughts on “My Mother’s Perfect Imperfection

  1. Your mother was a beautiful lady……it runs in your family! When we lose our mom we lose not just a part of our self but a whole heck of a lot of our self. You are a strong, courageous woman in large part because of your mom. I visited my mother at the cemetery just this morning and took flowers to honor her. You honored your mom by sharing this story with so many others and it was a beautiful story. Thank you!!!


  2. As someone who lost their mother 2 weeks ago, I have memories flooding my head and heart. Thanks for sharing your mom and the influence she had on you as well as the rest of the world.


  3. Annette…that is a wonderful tribute to your Mom, she was an outstanding woman. I can understand how this is a rough time for you. My Mom passed away in 1999 with my brother, nephew, me, and my partner by her side–as we gave her our blessing to finally let go. Hardest damn thing I have ever had to do in my life. I wrote a tribute to her and put it up on my Ancestry page. Her birthday is the 17th, so Mothers’ Day and her birthday are special days for me as well. I spend a lot of time late at night talking to her star in the southwestern sky…it was the first bright star I saw after her passing. This year it looks like the sky will be clear for our talk on Mothers’ Day. I’ll ask my Mom to keep an eye out for your Mom, and give her a ride on that Harley I just know she plays on. And maybe they can go play bingo together, too! 🙂


    1. OMG that comment totally made me cry! I am sure like you, I feel blessed for the time I did have with her. I understand not everyone has a loving family to nurture and support them…I was one of the lucky ones.


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