Have you missed me?? It’s been almost a week since the LCLC conference (pronounced as Lick Lick-nuff said) ended and I am still pondering some of the things I learned there. Besides meeting some amazing people (far too many to list), including getting a chance to sit down and talk with Dorothy Allison, there was… Read More Character Assassination or Hyperbole?

I was watching a lesbian short (Youtube film) last night and started laughing out loud at a line in the movie.  One of the main characters brought donuts for breakfast in a park. I am paraphrasing here, but she said something to the effect that who doesn’t like something that has a hole in it.… Read More Donuts and Holes…Oh My!

I don’t know about other authors, but a little bit of me and my experiences find their way into my books. Sometimes, I’ll get a note from an editor questioning something, thinking that whatever I’ve written doesn’t seem realistic…or doesn’t ring true. On those occasions, I put in a little comment fessing up to either… Read More Truth is Stranger Than Fiction

The conclusion: Not to Blog. It isn’t a huge surprise that I’ve been going through what I’m calling my existential writing crisis. Let’s face it, a blog is simply another form of writing. I began writing a weekly blog almost 4 years ago, shortly after my debut novel came out. I’ve written 177 blogs and… Read More To Blog or Not to Blog

I think I opened Pandora’s box with my joke #pantiesweek. Goddess bless Sophie for taking that gauntlet, running and skipping down the road with it. What evolved was a plethora of discussions for #pussyweek that started with the word pussy and the whole question again of what words we prefer for those lady parts. I… Read More Lady Bits and Related Topics…

Every year I honor my mother in the blog before Mother’s Day. I’ve been doing this since I started my blog four years ago. This will be the fourth year I’ve done this. Sometimes I tell stories about my mother, other times I share the essence of who she was. I’ve talked about her passing… Read More My Mother’s Perfect Imperfection

I am constantly amazed by the posts on Facebook that receive the most action…or maybe I’m not. The topic was not new, we’ve discussed this before. But who wouldn’t want to talk about PANTIES? I was laughing in my chair the whole time I both read and participated in the latest post. The usual suspects who… Read More Panties, Panties, Panties

I am a weak, weak, woman.  When I started this whole writing thing, I never in a million years thought I would, after 4 years, have 12 published novels. But….what I really never envisioned was writing a sequel. After jumping into the deep end with my flotation device (a co-writer), I wrote my first true… Read More I am a weak, weak, woman…

I experienced a stark reminder this week while I was teaching my weekly Customer Service training. I’m not following my own advice. Or rather, what I’m doing when I tell myself a story is dramatically skewed in the opposite direction. Let me paint the picture for you. One of the building blocks I consider critical… Read More Tell Yourself A Story

I was reading an interesting blog today. This topic of conversation seems to crop up here and there in the Facebook groups I tend to participate in (not as often as it should in my humble opinion). Why are persons of color, older women, persons with disabilities, etc so under-represented in lesfic (or in literature in… Read More Relateable Characters